When I told Jaybird, my boyhood best friend and mentor, that I no longer wanted to play football, the old black man, knowing how much I loved the game, knew I was lying. After each preseason practice when we drove home, I told him about everything the team did. When I confessed that my attitude change resulted from the coach assigning me to the third team, he said, “Son, Satan has many tools that he uses to prevent God’s children from maintaining a positive attitude; he uses discouragement the most.”
Satan uses discouragement for destructive purposes
Ironically, Jaybird sometimes used discouragement as part of a teaching technique that never failed to work because it imprinted indelibly lessons in my mind. One technique involved making confusing comments and not explaining them, causing me to rack my brain, become discouraged, give up, and beg him to explain. In time, he would, but only after he knew the solution I sought to obtain would become a permanent part of the guidelines for life he was instilling in me.
A good example involves the time I asked him if he was afraid of dying. “Ain’t nuttin’ to dyin’ … once you git the hang of it,” he said.
“Jaybird, that’s stupid. How can a person get the hang of something he does only once?”
“Ain’t nuttin’ to dyin’ … once you git the hang of it,” he mumbled again. In time I realized that “the hang of it” results from a person’s determination to get the most out of life, day by day.
Whereas Satan uses discouragement for destructive purposes, Jaybird used it constructively; whereas Satan uses discouragement to foil a person’s desire to succeed, Jaybird used it — not to implement hopelessness and surrender, as Satan does — but as an impetus to strive even harder to attain worthy goals and, most importantly, to be successful in the eyes of God by living according to His will.
Life is an interminable problem-solving process in which discouragement is a constant stumbling block
As a college teacher, I sometimes utilized a “can’t do” ruse to generate a “can do” mentality among students. The strategy involved throwing out a dare in such a way that students rose to the challenge; then I orchestrated their efforts to solve the challenge. If successful, the students learned that they must never let discouragement be a deterrent to overcoming difficulties encountered on the road to achievement — the same lesson Jaybird taught me.
Life is an interminable problem-solving process in which discouragement is a constant stumbling block. The more it is overcome, the less of an impediment it becomes. Experience in defeating the devil’s chief tool leads to losses for him and victories for God and His children.
My attitude toward problem solving strengthened because of Jaybird’s discouragement technique, as he knew it would. Like all lessons the beloved old black man taught me, that one is still as useful as ever in my personal life, as it was in the classroom. I learned from him that discouragement is the death of attitude, and as he always said: Positive attitudes achieve positive outcomes.
Jimmy Reed is an Oxford, Mississippi resident, Ole Miss and Delta State University alumnus, Vietnam Era Army Veteran, former Mississippi Delta cotton farmer and ginner, author, and retired college teacher.
This story is a selection from Jimmy Reed’s latest book, entitled The Jaybird Tales.
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When I told Jaybird, my boyhood best friend and mentor, that I no longer wanted to play football, the old black man, knowing how much I loved the game, knew I was lying. After each preseason practice when we drove home, I told him about everything the team did. When I confessed that my attitude change resulted from the coach assigning me to the third team, he said, “Son, Satan has many tools that he uses to prevent God’s children from maintaining a positive attitude; he uses discouragement the most.” 
